Straight men on the low chat site
Things suddenly shifted inside my head, and I went from thinking I was straight to knowing I am gay.There was no other way to explain what I was feeling.
By this I mean that when we think of the visual rhetoric of things like gay marriage, gay families and partnerships, the legacies of the endangered black man, the always already dysfunctional black family, these things disallow the articulation of gay black men, coupled or not, as the gay and lesbian neo-liberal norm.But because the down low is defined by secrecy, almost nothing is known about the number of men of any race who are on the down low, how many have HIV or AIDS, or their sexual activity.At a time when black women are being diagnosed with HIV at a rate 20 times that of white women, five CDC studies will be among the first to try to learn how many white, black, Asian and Latino men fit the down-low profile; identify how, if at all, being on the down low differs from being "in the closet," and determine whether down-low men have a role in infecting women with HIV.Another reason for this decrease in visual presence may have to do with black men’s entrée into the men’s movement in the 90s, most representative in the Million Man March.Sexual infidelity is often considered the ultimate betrayal. When a heterosexual couple experiences infidelity and the offense is committed with someone of the same sex, it turns worlds upside down. We expect that our partners will keep our interests in mind even when potential rewards tempt them to break the rules.As I wrote in Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, I know something about breaking rules.
I was married with two children when I unexpectedly fell in love with a man.
Infidelity occurs in the context of both heterosexual and same-sex relationships, although expectations may be different.
In either case, when expectations are violated, the wrongdoer will have to account for his behavior.
Very rarely was anything of substance shared there and more or less, everyone had the same opportunity to meet and connect with others.
The interactions were unique because of the anonymity given by using My Space.
Perhaps my perspective here might help you when seeking your next mate on there (or not). I turned 19 and I was good with finding and meeting prospective dates on there.