In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.
All right, so now you’re all set with a shiny dating profile that’s garnered lots of hits from potential hotties.These are canned messages that will say something like “Nancy is interested in you” or “Joe winked at you”.Winks and smiles are a quick way to say hello but drastically limit your ability to pique someone’s interest. The purpose of the first email is to get them to respond, to open a dialogue.So, your site and your story really inspired me to give it a go.As a consequence, I feel like I skipped the first part of your dating experience and moved to the part where you found success. Like write short-emails, contact lots of people (I used eharmony and contacted around 95% of my matches, probably around 300 women), date lots of people (I went on as many first dates as I could at a given time, my record is 5 in one week and 2 in one day even). Basically, I followed your advice and it has been working. Christian Mingle may seem to work magic when it comes to matching up Christian singles, but there are no “tricks.” Getting real is the key. – Your profile is informative for others to read, but equally informative to you when you’re writing it!
Like any good recipe, there are certain ingredients that work best together. You get to reflect on your life, which will give you a strong sense of your goals and what you want from a relationship.
Well, you can put up your profile and wait for someone to contact you, but you’ll probably get much better results if you take the initiative.
You definitely won’t know unless you contact them and find out. I recommend saving the instant messaging until you’ve exchanged a few emails because it gives you more time to think about what you are going to say and to get a feel for the other person.
Once you get more familiar with each other, then you can start chatting.
If you don’t have a paid membership, you’ll most likely be limited to using ‘winks’ or ‘smiles’ or something similar.
This puts a lot of pressure on having a terrific profile because it will have to do all of your talking for you. You want to get their interest but leave it open ended so that they will respond back to you. Another tip: don’t send a barrage of emails to one person, follow their pace and try to keep up.