Dating sucks and im depressed
Nothing seems comforting, pleasurable, or worth living for.There’s no apparent hope for things ever feeling better, and history is rewritten and experienced as confirmation that everything has always been miserable, and always will be.
During a major depressive episode, the world can literally seem like a dark place. Because here in the Midwest we like to get married and have kids young. I may be in the Midwestern minority, but I've never shot a gun. I don't find guns "neat." I don't want to go on a date to the gun range. I call Indianapolis the Big Little because, while it's certainly not New York or Chicago, it's still relatively metroplitan. If you're in late 20s/early 30s, be prepared to find a shockingly small pool to wade through. On their online dating profiles, on the back of their trucks, casually tucked into their pants.Take it as a sign or a call to action in American speak. See what happens is many American girls are serial monogamous daters until their 30s for this reason. American girls like this are horrible to date if you ask me. This is how you are supposed to feel when you do not have your other half. I teach English one on one and I will tell you what I learned.It makes us desperate enough to look outside ourselves for someone to rescue and save our lives in every sense of the word. Then when they are in their 30s they want to find this last hope guy. Girls should be desperate and lonely in their 20s, We guys are. And like the Poet Rilke says Love is the work for which all other work is but preparation. To be alone feels like 100, no 1000 cold daggers stabbing you deep in your heart. This is nature tell you to go out there and find your other half. I talk to Eastern European girls who have their Ph D’s and are super successful directors of large companies. If you are single and not desperate and not looking that is totally messed up. Here is the full quote: For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been given to us, the ultimate, the final problem and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. You feel this most depressed at night or when then sun goes down, around holidays in the winter, basically most of the time. Since I teach them English I get to talk with many girl one on one about things like relationships and love as it is often brought up in conversation. Don’t you want some leggy super hot girl, and I mean real beauty like on a magazine cover, looking into your eyes with her swollen soft lips, whispering in a somewhat depressed, but soft alluring voice ”I need you, I am so lonely and I desperately need you’.
If you are single and say, ‘I do not need someone to make me happy’. They all tell me, all of them, they want to find their other half so they can be in love. It is not some Gothic male fantasy, this is reality if you are not in the USA.
And bonus points if the man/woman you marry is someone you went to highschool with! So if you don't fancy yourself a step-mom, you may have to look a little harder3. Maybe it's just Indiana, but we grow 'em short and sturdy here in my little corner of the Midwest. Someone always knows someone who knows someone who you went to high school or college with. Being set up is a thing that only happens in the movies. The number of times I've heard, "I'd set you up with someone, but I don't know anyone single!
I live in the Midwest (Indiana, to be specific) which is its own special kind of torture when it comes to meeting eligible men. In fact, if you tie the knot by the time you're 22, you win a prize! As mentioned above, dating in the Midwest has an end game: marriage and kids. But it also means that if you haven't yet happened to grab these Game of Life tokens by the time you're 30, there's a very high percentage that whoever you end up dating is already going to have kids. I prefer to date someone taller than me by at least three inches, and at 5'7", it has been a struggle. And I really would like to erase your profile photo of you holding a gun after the "big kill" from my brain. However, no matter how "big" this city seems sometimes I'm constantly reminded how small it truly is. But for those of us who don't "do the Jesus," as my godson used to call it, you're not left with many options. Personally, I'd prefer someone who shares my agnostic, please-leave-God-out-of-our-relationship view on things.9. The single girl to single guy ratio seems to be vastly off balance—in favor of the dudes. Whatever it is, there are far more single ladies looking for a partner than there are single men.
Maybe, just maybe, they are happy because they are constantly working on their goals and dreams, getting them to where they want to be in life.
Why is it that Americans feel the need to almost apologize when they are looking for someone?
Maybe they are less likely to take action and go after what they want, leaving them tangibly unfulfilled and forcing them back into a cycle of depression.