Dating multiple men advice
My many relationships have fallen somewhere between a string of not-so-great first dates and being in love.I've enjoyed the fun aspects of being with a partner without being tied down to one person emotionally.
♦◊♦Dear I’m Not a Heart-breaker Type, As I’ve referenced time and time again, there are people who sign up to be on reality TV show where they are one of many people dating one guy.From the Luke Wilson look-alike at last night's bash to your hottie neighbor who inspires naughty thoughts to the hunky trainer at the gym, guys are coming out of the woodwork to ask you out. "The more men you date, the better your odds of finding your perfect match," confirms Jodie Gould, coauthor of Date Like a Man.For some reason, you can't seem to find it in your heart to turn any of them down. Dating a slew of studs simultaneously does wonders for your ego, your social life and (duh! The ideal setup, she says, is to have "a pair and a spare," meaning you should keep at least three Romeos in rotation at once.Before the vacation, I went out with another girl, and had a third girl ask me out although no definitive plans were made. It seemed fairly new in getting to know each other to declare that she was my girlfriend.I tried to text the initial girl after there was a delayed response on my part (cell phone signal issues while on vacation). I am dating with the hopes of ending up in a relationship.You'll get a rush from the excitement and gain a sexy, dating-queen confidence at the same time.
"There are plenty of benefits to having lots of dates, not the least of which is that you'll project a self-assured, carefree attitude when meeting new people, men in particular," says Gould.
The new people I do meet are either fellow musicians I interact with at open mic nights or sometimes girls back from where I went to college.
The problem with meeting girls through mutual friends at the college I went to, is that it’s about a two hour commute from where I live now. I went on two dates over the course of a month with one girl.
And, since I don't have a top-notch memory, it also requires keeping a handy list in my phone.
The logic behind multi-dating isn’t rooted so much in the need to distract oneself with a bunch of dudes following a breakup (although it totally can be) as it is in what men have long called "playing the field.” And, it's certainly not a new concept.
Whether it's chance, timing, an exact alignment of stars — hell, who cares what it is!